Q & A
the Young TS
Your letters - Melanie's
Melanie! I read your latest up and have a few
questions that I thought you could answer:
1. From previous
reading of yours, I thought that you have a full developed bust and
the 'mones had worked. What are your measurements now, if I can be
I had about an "A" cup,
even four years after surgery. Finally, I gave up and did the implant
thing. The way the doctor had me pick out the size I wanted to be was
to look through a copy of "Playboy Lingerie 1991" and put
four post-it notes on the breasts I liked the best. Well, I did that,
and that is exactly what I got. What I didn't realize is that from the
outside looking in things strike you differently than from the inside
looking out. I got WAY more than I really wanted to have as far as how
it feels to have them. I'm sure it all looks just like I selected, but
it FEELS much too large.
As for measurements, around the
fullest part of the bust I am about 40 1/2 inches, 31" on the
waist, and 39" on the hips. That makes me more or less a
"D" cup now. They're fine, they do get in the way though,
and overall, they are nice to use as "proof" that one is
female, but also make me a lot more noticeable, so I better look the
part in all other ways as well. I also get tired of guys talking to my
boobs and then noticing there's a woman attached to them.
2. You and Mary have
a great relationship from what you have said over the past years,
but if you and her are not have a sexual relation, is she having a
normal sex with a man. Do you double date?
Nope. She hasn't dated yet. I've
had five boyfriends and one girlfriend since surgery, but she hasn't
dated. Perhaps she will some day. I don't know.
3. Are you going to
complete the transition with the other operation that you have not
had completed in the future?
That would be the labiaplasty. Yes,
I think I'd like to do that. It's just one of those finishing touch
things that makes the whole process seem a little bit more polished
and complete. But, I don't want to do it under general anesthetic.
I've done that too much in the last few years, and I'd rather have it
4. As a post op, I
enjoy sex and have learned the ways of a women. It would be a good
idea that you write your experience in this area. Other post op, and
pre op would like to have a guideline. This would be a good way for
them to react in the new role.
Oh, some of that might crop up in
my writings from time to time, but as open as I've been, I'm finding
my interests turning away from me and more toward the people and
environment around me. My current diary entries hardly ever mention
transgender issues at all, and even personal issues are not in the
focus. This is not conscious, but just a natural growth into new areas
and new interests. After all, it is called "transition" for
a reason: you're supposed to get over it!
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